Genius Margins

Genius Margins

Reality Doesn't Negotiate

The hidden cost of the mental edits we make every day

Noah Zender's avatar
Noah Zender
Sep 28, 2025
∙ Paid
Share

Most people smooth over reality.

They create psychological account tricks. Mental edits. Little lies they tell themselves to avoid facing what’s actually there.

I saw this firsthand on a hike out into the desert.

My girlfriend and I encountered a rattlesnake two hours into our trek. We calmly went around it and continued on.

At the turnaround point, we met some tourists heading back the same way.

I mentioned the snake. Simple courtesy.

One woman immediately freaked out. “Oh don’t tell me that. I’ve never seen a rattlesnake before. Now i’m going to be scared going back... So thanks,” she said with obvious irritation.

Her husband had a completely different reaction. He asked practical questions. What to do if they see one. What happens if someone gets bit.

Where we were, a snake bite meant helicopter evacuation or death. No one would make it to a hospital in time.

Two people. Same reality. Completely different approaches.

One refused to face it. One leaned in.

Comfortable Lies Compound into Crisis

Keep reading with a 7-day free trial

Subscribe to Genius Margins to keep reading this post and get 7 days of free access to the full post archives.

Already a paid subscriber? Sign in
© 2025 Noah Zender
Privacy ∙ Terms ∙ Collection notice
Start writingGet the app
Substack is the home for great culture